Reverse culture shock
|Is your Japanese partner ready to meet the family?|
About a month later, we flew to Sydney to meet my parents, and I’d say my bf was far more nervous. His first time in another country; the pressure of speaking English all the time; and as he said, “traditionally, men don’t get along with the father-in-law”. I took the precaution of booking us into a hotel for the first few nights, even though my family insisted we should stay with them. Sharing a bathroom and wondering whether to wear pyjamas to the breakfast table would just be added stresses. He also felt better that although my folks picked us up from the airport, we could go straight to the hotel and he could shower and put on clean clothes, before "officially" meeting my family.
Try to be sensitive to your Japanese partner’s anxieties. I had to assure him that jeans and a jacket would be absolutely fine for the first visit. Also, tell them the shoe policy at your family house – whether you take them off or leave them on. Unless they’ve done a home stay overseas, they might have a lot of little questions.